How to Tell a Girl You Want Something Casual
To tell a girl you want something casual, be honest about it on the app: ask what she's looking for, then tell her plainly that you're not after anything too serious right now. Skip vague lines like "I'm just seeing where things go".
Key takeaway: honesty beats vague answers. Ask her what she's looking for, say clearly that you're not looking for anything too serious, and see if your intentions match. It saves you time and energy, and it gets you better dates.
Why you should stop hiding your intentions on dating apps
Nobody's telling you this, but if you're on the dating apps looking for something casual, there's no need to dress it up. Just ask her about it on Hinge already.
What you shouldn't do is send her the old line: "Oh, I'm just seeing where things go." It's deceitful, and she's heard it a million times.
How to tell a girl you want something casual on Hinge
Here's the simple sequence I recommend:
Ask her directly: "What are you looking for on Hinge, by the way?"
Let her answer. She'll tell you what she's looking for, and she'll ask what you're looking for too.
Be honest: "I'm not necessarily looking for anything too serious at the moment, to be honest."
Follow it up with: "If that's cool, we should meet up someday."
That's it. It really is that simple.
What if she says she wants something serious?
If she's told you she's looking for something serious, you can still be honest with her. Just follow up with: "Are you open to more casual as well?"
You'll be surprised how many girls are fine with that. Even when she's looking for something serious, a lot of girls find this refreshing and will still go out with you for something more casual.
Why being honest gets you better dates
You skip the vague, deceitful line she's heard a million times.
You find out quickly whether your intentions match.
It saves you a lot of time and energy.
It gets you better dates.
So be honest with her, be direct, and see if your intentions match.
Once you're both on the same page, the next step is the date itself, and I explain how to invite her out confidently in how to ask a girl out over text without actually asking.
Common questions
What should I say if I only want something casual on Hinge?
Ask her what she's looking for on Hinge, then tell her honestly: "I'm not necessarily looking for anything too serious at the moment, to be honest." Follow it with "If that's cool, we should meet up someday."
Should I tell her I'm just seeing where things go?
No. That line is deceitful, and she has heard it a million times. Telling her plainly that you're not looking for anything too serious is the better approach.
Will women still date me if I'm honest about wanting something casual?
You'll be surprised how many will. Even when she's looking for something serious, a lot of women find this honesty refreshing and will still go out with you for something more casual.
Being upfront about what you want lets you see straight away whether your intentions match. It saves you time and energy, and it gets you better dates.
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